Abusive or Domineering People
Scientists have long been fascinated by how predators can paralyze their victims with fear without ever touching them. A couple of years ago, researchers discovered that tigers emit a growl that is slightly below the threshold of normal hearing. However, the victim feels it, and the unconscious mind “hears" it, responding in paralyzing fear. Tigers use this skill to paralyze their prey so that they can then easily overpower them. Many predators besides tigers do this.
Abusive or domineering people do a similar thing to their victims. The controlling personality uses the victim’s own guilt and insecurities to manipulate them. The victim has no idea how, but finds she strangely yields to aggressor. The aggressor, like the tiger, knows precisely how to emit the right words to “guilt” his victim into doing almost anything he wants – all without ever touching them.
The aggressor, like the animal predator, looks for a victim who is filled with insecurities and weaknesses that he can take advantage of. He then uses the victim’s own insecurity and guilt to manipulate them like puppets. Women are frequent victims because many women (more so than men) are frequently plagued with guilt. They feel guilty for eating sweets, they feel guilty for having too much fun, they feel guilty for not spending enough time with their children, spouses or parents, they feel guilty for not doing enough for loved ones, they feel guilty, guilty, guilty. The controlling personality easily exploits this weakness to serve his own needs.
Often the controlling personality will use religion to manipulate and control. He will pick a victim(s) who is not well-grounded in the Word, and will use the very scriptures to produce condemnation and guilt. The aggressor uses verses of the Bible to make the victim feel fear and guilt. Once the person is guilty, he is easily controlled – all without ever touching him. The victim often feels he is serving God by letting the aggressor run all over him. Like the insecure woman, the religious victim is “guilted” into doing almost anything the aggressor wants. Remember Jim Jones? The controlling person, just like the tiger, knows exactly how to push the victim’s buttons to render him/her paralyzed – all without physical contact.
Abusive or domineering people do a similar thing to their victims. The controlling personality uses the victim’s own guilt and insecurities to manipulate them. The victim has no idea how, but finds she strangely yields to aggressor. The aggressor, like the tiger, knows precisely how to emit the right words to “guilt” his victim into doing almost anything he wants – all without ever touching them.
The aggressor, like the animal predator, looks for a victim who is filled with insecurities and weaknesses that he can take advantage of. He then uses the victim’s own insecurity and guilt to manipulate them like puppets. Women are frequent victims because many women (more so than men) are frequently plagued with guilt. They feel guilty for eating sweets, they feel guilty for having too much fun, they feel guilty for not spending enough time with their children, spouses or parents, they feel guilty for not doing enough for loved ones, they feel guilty, guilty, guilty. The controlling personality easily exploits this weakness to serve his own needs.
Often the controlling personality will use religion to manipulate and control. He will pick a victim(s) who is not well-grounded in the Word, and will use the very scriptures to produce condemnation and guilt. The aggressor uses verses of the Bible to make the victim feel fear and guilt. Once the person is guilty, he is easily controlled – all without ever touching him. The victim often feels he is serving God by letting the aggressor run all over him. Like the insecure woman, the religious victim is “guilted” into doing almost anything the aggressor wants. Remember Jim Jones? The controlling person, just like the tiger, knows exactly how to push the victim’s buttons to render him/her paralyzed – all without physical contact.
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